Rejection
That’s my theme of the week. Last week I put myself out there to someone, and although I didn’t expect a specific response, I received a response that contained a non-response. I won’t go into specifics because I don’t want to call the person out, and I really don’t know what sort of response I expected, but it was definitely not the response I received.
On another note, I was invited out to lunch today, and although I knew one of the people in question wouldn’t fully appreciate me attending, and despite my voicing this concern, I was invited nonetheless. Lunch is lunch, you know? It’s not like a life-commitment. And although I knew these things, I was hurt when I was disinvited to lunch. I understand. Whatever. But it really hurt my feelings. The parties later apologized, even the person who I knew wouldn’t appreciate me at the lunch, but the hurt is still there.
Rejection. I need to change my attitude about rejection. It used to infuriate me when “DJ” would pull a no-show or would cancel at the last minute for our “lunch” dates. After a couple years of dealing with his no-shows, I’ve become less angry and more hurt. And after the previous five months of us never being able to make our schedules work, I’m just plain hurt. I understand work obligations; I understand your personal obligations; I don’t want to be an “obligation” but I would appreciate more effort. Please.
Why do I put myself into situations where I KNOW I will be rejected? In case number one, I’d like to believe it was the timing, but I don’t have an answer. Case number two, despite the person in question telling me it wasn’t because I was “hated” or anything… I don’t fully believe it. And case number three… that stumps me. We are amazing together and we both enjoy one another. Yet I put up with the rejection.
I need to change my thinking about rejection. I deserve more. I. Deserve. More. I am worth more. You cannot treat me like shit. You cannot make me feel like shit. I. Deserve. More. I deserve better. Better than you can offer me.
Monday, May 14, 2012
Target Times, 05.12.12
Target Times
05.12.12
A woman called and asked if our store sold items from “The Shops” that was advertised on TV.
Yes we do, what were you looking for? I asked.
She said, “the Shops Department.”
I’m sorry, we don’t have one department with everything from The Shops; it’s throughout the store. What were you looking for?
What do you have from The Shops?
Household items, clothes, ma—
Clothes? What do you mean?
Clothes. You know, dresses, shirts, pants…
What else? Make-up What kind of make-up?
I’m not sure, I can page that department if you’d like.
No! I want to know everything you have from The Shops!
Are you looking for something particular?
No! I want a list of everything you have! Do you have towels from The Shops?
I’m not sure, I’ll put you on hold and ask.
*put caller on hold*
After getting a lengthy list from the house-wares/domestics person, I return to the caller to discover she hung up.
She calls back and asks to speak to a manager.
I ask of she was the person who called asking about items we sell from The Shops.
Yes! She angrily replies. I was on hold for over five minutes and that is unacceptable!
*knowing it wasn’t even CLOSE to five minutes, I bite my tongue and apologize* Sorry about that. I have a list and went to tell you but you weren’t on hold anymore. Would you like me to tell you what we have?
Yes!
*I list the many items for her.*
I still want to speak to a manager.
The manager later informed me that the woman said, “I initially was going to tell you to FIRE that “Terry” girl because she doesn’t know anything, but since she did give me SOME information, I won’t tell you to fire her. BUT I think it’s unacceptable that your employees don’t know everything that you sell in the store. The manager thanked per for her thoughts, but said, in a nut shell, that it’s unrealistic to expect all of the 200+ employees in the store to memorize every item Target sells.
OMG! The things people do to make themselves feel important!
** Side note: there are a total of 443 items in "The Shops" alone that Target sells. 126 in housewares; 240 in clothing; 38 in health & beauty; 18 in pets, specifically for dogs; 21 items in candy.
A woman called and asked if our store sold items from “The Shops” that was advertised on TV.
Yes we do, what were you looking for? I asked.
She said, “the Shops Department.”
I’m sorry, we don’t have one department with everything from The Shops; it’s throughout the store. What were you looking for?
What do you have from The Shops?
Household items, clothes, ma—
Clothes? What do you mean?
Clothes. You know, dresses, shirts, pants…
What else? Make-up What kind of make-up?
I’m not sure, I can page that department if you’d like.
No! I want to know everything you have from The Shops!
Are you looking for something particular?
No! I want a list of everything you have! Do you have towels from The Shops?
I’m not sure, I’ll put you on hold and ask.
*put caller on hold*
After getting a lengthy list from the house-wares/domestics person, I return to the caller to discover she hung up.
She calls back and asks to speak to a manager.
I ask of she was the person who called asking about items we sell from The Shops.
Yes! She angrily replies. I was on hold for over five minutes and that is unacceptable!
*knowing it wasn’t even CLOSE to five minutes, I bite my tongue and apologize* Sorry about that. I have a list and went to tell you but you weren’t on hold anymore. Would you like me to tell you what we have?
Yes!
*I list the many items for her.*
I still want to speak to a manager.
The manager later informed me that the woman said, “I initially was going to tell you to FIRE that “Terry” girl because she doesn’t know anything, but since she did give me SOME information, I won’t tell you to fire her. BUT I think it’s unacceptable that your employees don’t know everything that you sell in the store. The manager thanked per for her thoughts, but said, in a nut shell, that it’s unrealistic to expect all of the 200+ employees in the store to memorize every item Target sells.
OMG! The things people do to make themselves feel important!
** Side note: there are a total of 443 items in "The Shops" alone that Target sells. 126 in housewares; 240 in clothing; 38 in health & beauty; 18 in pets, specifically for dogs; 21 items in candy.
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